It’s incredible how many times I’ve heard people [especially in the corporate professions such as transport, law, IT, banking, and a few others] tell me that they were worried about people who take a degree in psychology, because psychology was too wishy-washy, uncertain for the prospect of getting secure jobs on the basis of a degree in it, and somewhat not as important as were their professions [of course they'd say that, but that's another story].  So the core argument was ‘we need lawyers, we need IT almighties, we need transport, we need bankers, but we don’t really need psychologists’.  These same people would also tell me that the number of people who go for a degree in psychology is the highest of all degrees simply because psychology is the easiest degree to get and if one wants a degree for the sake of the paper to give them the passport to a job in any field, a degree in psychology is an obvious choice without needing too much effort.  But then…   Read the rest of this entry »

The inventor of the idea of sex education being taught from early grades in mainstream education thought that it’d be beneficial to societies in the same way as I’ve been maintaining for years that teaching NLP from early grades in schools would.  So how?  What payback would governments get in the long term if they invested in the implementation of this idea?     Read the rest of this entry »

Perhaps you are, which is why you’ve come to this blog post.   But then, there’s so much information out there, there’re so many life coaches within Toronto or London UK alone, and there’re so many areas all these life coaches specialize in… so where do you start?  And how’s the service of life coaching administered anyway? Read the rest of this entry »

Here we are past the doorstep of a new year again, but how many of us have actually become “better people” with the clock’s strike of 12?  Read the rest of this entry »

Your mind is one of your most precious assets.  You must be continually working to increase the quality of your thinking.  So how can you make every minute count in your professional development no matter what professional field you’re in?   Read the rest of this entry »

This is the age of achievement.  Never have more people accomplished more things in more different fields than they are accomplishing these days.  More people are becoming successful at a faster rate than ever in history.  There have never been more opportunities for you to turn your dreams into realities than there are at present times.   Despite this fact there’re always plenty of people whose lives are the opposite of fulfilling…  So how come?  If it is really so hard to make one’s life fulfilling, how come there’re a those who do know how to make their lives fulfilling?  Well, here’re the 7 launching pads of this rocket science… Read the rest of this entry »

Your major source of stress in life is the fear of rejection, criticism, and disapproval.  This fear of rejection manifests itself in an overconcern for the (dis)approval of others.  The fear of rejection is often learned in early childhood as the result of a parent giving the child what psychologists call conditional love.  Many parents made the mistake of giving love and approval to their children only when their children did something that the parents wanted them to do.   A child who has grown up with this kind of conditional love tends to seek unconditional approval from others all his / her life.  When the child becomes an adult, this need for approval from the parent is transferred to the workplace and onto the boss.  The adult employee can then become preoccupied with the boss’s opinion.  This preoccupation can lead to an obsession to perform to some undetermined high standard.

This behavior varies from mild to extreme forms.  People who display forms on the extreme end of the continuum usually put so much pressure on themselves to perform in order to please their bosses / partners / others that they burn themselves out.  They often die of heart attacks before the age of 60.  This behavior, triggered by conditional love in childhood, is a very serious stress-related phenomenon in the Western workplace.

2 things you can do immediately to deal with the fear of rejection, criticism, and disapproval:

• realize and accept that the opinions of others are not important enough for you to feel stressed, unhappy, or overconcerned about them.  Even if they dislike you entirely, it has nothing to do with your own worth and value as a person.
• refuse to be overconcerned about what you think people are thinking about you.  In reality, most people are not thinking about you at all.  Relax and get on with your life.

Contact me for more tips, help, or motivation.  I definitely won’t reject you.

Prior planning prevents poor performance is the original version of the 5Ps, but I’ll now modify it to prior preparation prevents poor performance.  Almost the same thing, but I’ll expand on the preparation p in this entry.  So be prepared!   Read the rest of this entry »

Implement these 2 tips on a regular basis for the rest of your life to keep yourself focused on getting your most important tasks completed on schedule.   Read the rest of this entry »

I’ve met many people who don’t know how to relax due to being stuck in living in the fast lane.  These people live the paradox of wanting to be highly productive all the time to please everyone [at once], yet often achieving the exact opposite.  That’s partly because regular relaxation is essential for a long life and personal effectiveness. Here are 8 techniques for relaxing physically that are used by the most successful and highest paid people.   Read the rest of this entry »

You need to stand back on a regular basis and analyze yourself, your life and your time usage.  You need to become a master of your time rather than a slave to continuing time pressures.    Read the rest of this entry »

If you travel by air, you know that when your plane takes off, the pilot tells all the passengers to stay in their seats with their seatbelts buckled.  At times during the flight the pilot will warn “We expect some turbulence for a few moments, so please stay buckled up.”  When you start any new lifestyle, job, business, or transition, you too will experience turbulence.    Read the rest of this entry »

One of the greatest success principles of all is the law of accumulation. This law dictates that everything great and worthwhile in human life is an accumulation of thousands of tiny efforts and sacrifices that nobody ever sees or appreciates.  Everything accumulates over time.  You have to put in many tiny efforts that nobody sees or appreciates before you achieve anything worthwhile.  It’s like a snowball.  A snowball starts very small, but it grows as it adds millions of tiny snowflakes and continues to grow as it gathers momentum.    Read the rest of this entry »

The NLP principle of forced efficiency dictates that there’s never enough time to do everything, but there’s always enough time to do the most important thing.  How does this work?   Read the rest of this entry »

Click here  to watch and listen to Sir Ken Robinson’s view.  I find it speaking volumes!  Do you agree with it?  Contact me to share your views.